I grew up naturally giving, naturally sensitive, naturally attuned to energy and emotions. Reading and seeing and feeling things that other people didn't notice. Sensing the feel of a room, a place, a person. This was normal and natural to me. Eventually though I began experiencing unexplained emotional and physical pain. And then after several years burnout arrived and led me to question if the lifestyle I was living was really working for me. But I don't regret any part of this journey. In fact I'm grateful! I was living out of alignment with my true nature and gifts. It was all a call back to myself.
As a giver, an empath and a sensitive a call back to yourself can be difficult as we are so other-oriented. Which is so beautiful, when in balance, like all things. When not in balance it can look like fatigue, anxiety, depression, stress and difficulty bouncing back from it, not feeling like yourself, burnout, low self-worth, lack of self-confidence, wondering "what's wrong with me", self-doubt, digestive problems, depletion, and other uncomfortable symptoms. If you're experiencing these and you're feeling the call to find your way back to yourself, have a look at this post, and feel into the suggestions below. <3
Three more things to know and embody as an empath and sensitive:
1. You aren't responsible for other people's energy and emotions.
It's not your responsibility to manage the room, or the moods or emotions of your family, friends, etc. You don't need to make other people happy. Or sacrifice yourself and your own happiness to do so.
Many of you grew up quickly. In your childhood you felt responsible for the emotions of your parents, siblings, and others. You put their welfare before yours. You've forgotten how to come back to yourself and that you don't need to carry other people's energy and emotions. And this pattern continues in your adult relationships with partners, co-workers, etc.
It this sounds familiar to you try this at the end of your day: Call yourself back. Say to yourself or out loud "I exhale and let go of other people's energy and emotions. I inhale and call my own energy back to me."
2. You are naturally a giver! And that is so sooooo beautiful!
Let's take a moment.
You, like nature, so naturally give to all those around you. Sometimes in ways you probably don't even recognize as giving because it's so natural. Do you see the beauty in that?
When we are really good givers we can sometimes attract people who quite good at taking. Lots of love to them! We could use some of that energy ourselves. :) But this dynamic doesn't always feel good to everyone involved because remember, it's all about balance, in giving and taking too.
This dynamic might feel comfortable and natural at first if it's one that you're familiar with. Eventually you might start to wonder why you feel depleted after spending time together. You might notice you're always the one listening and asking thoughtful questions without receiving the same in return.
I'm not suggesting you completely give up giving. :) Or that you completely give up on those people where you notice an unbalanced dynamic. I'm suggesting you acknowledge how it feel for you, then decide if you want to make a change. Notice when and where you feel seen, listened to, held, and where it feels like there's a balanced exchange. Move in that direction. And turn some of that awesome giving energy towards yourself! You deserve all the goodness, love, and generosity you offer to everyone else! Really. You are entirely worthy of that.
3. You don't need to heal other people, and all your own stuff, in order to be good enough, loveable, worthy and deserving of love, or capable of living a life you love.
You're likely naturally a bit of a healer. Maybe dabbling in healing modalities or full-blown living, teaching, and sharing them. Beauty, once again. <3 As healers it can be good to remind ourselves that we don't have to heal or save everyone that comes into our lives. You have your own unique journey that you grow and learn from and other people have theirs. Although uncomfortable sometimes everyone's journey is a part of their path and healing.
How would it feel to let go a tiny bit and create space for others to feel what they're feeling without taking it on? What if you chose your own healing and let others come to you completely on their own time and in their own way when/if they want guidance or support? What if you embodied and knew without a doubt that you are worthy, deserving, loveable, and good enough without taking on other people's emotions or feeling like you need to heal them? How would that feel? What would your life look like?
Also, for those who have been on the healing journey for a while, what if you knew right here, right now, that you are completely worthy, deserving, loveable, and good enough without having to do one more stitch of healing? :) :)
I share this with all the love, friends. Because I have been to these places and experienced them deeply. Being an empath and a sensitive can come with deep feelings and deep experiences. And we get to experience deep love, joy, beauty, fun, and connection!
Coaching for you, loving Empath and Sensitive, covers the topics in this blog, and so much more, in more depth. We do it in a way that's fun and expansive, deep and powerful, and that gets you moving - your body, your energy, creativity, life, etc. I love sharing with you! It's a pleasure and an honour to be a guide on your journey back to your self and the truth of who you are.
No matter what you've done since you were born; or what family/friends/community you were gifted; or what they said to you or how they feel about themselves; your worthiness, deservedness, loveability, and good enoughness are innate. They're in you just waiting to be remembered. Let's uncover them! Reach out and let's connect!
Empaths, sensitives, you are loved, and you are feeling a lot. I'm feeling too. It is such a beautiful gift to be you! And also I know that gift doesn't always feel like one.
As an empath/sensitive you love deeply and feel deeply. You've probably been doing it since childhood. Maybe even feeling, managing and responding to your parental figures', other family members', authority figures', friends' moods and emotions for so long that you don't even realize you do it. And that you don't need to do it. Oooooh, that's a kicker. Ponder that one. :) <3
Three things for your beautiful, sensitive, empathic soul and human being (experiencing being human) self to know and embody:
2. It's not selfish to want to be in your own energy and to release other people's emotions. S o. N o t. S e l f i s h.
It's not selfish to say the phrase above and disconnect. You'll likely reconnect again since that's what you do naturally and have been doing for years. You have no obligations when it comes to other people's energy or emotion. Their emotions and their journey are for them. Their healing is FOR them. It's part of their growth. And no doubt where you are on your journey is part of your growth.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel your own feelings, have clarity, feel light and good in your body. Even when there's so much going on in the world. That doesn't mean you lack compassion. You probably have heaps of it. Heaps. That will never go away. You just learn healthy boundaries. And that benefits not only you but the people in your life. More about boundaries to come. :)
It can be tough sometimes, I know. But there are tools. There are guides. And your gifts are your gifts because you're a part of showing other people like you a different way. Maybe even sharing your gifts with them in an empowered, healthy, and pleasurable way.
The more you embody you and your amazingness, come back to you, hold your center, the closer you'll feel to yourself, the life you want to live, and the way you want to feel. You deserve that!
I'm creating a structure for Coaching that's tailored to your unique needs and desires, Empaths and Sensitives. A container that will allow you to embody all the above and more! Reach out and connect. I'd love to be a part of your journey. <3
I love my clients!
They're the women that you are drawn to. The women who have the kindest, most compassionate hearts. The women that you know are making an impact in this world, some of them just by being themselves.
They're the women who light the room up when they enter it. They're the ones you call when you've had a really shitty day and don't know who else you can talk to. And the ones who remember that important date or event you have coming up and send you a text about it.
They are intelligent, kind, and capable. They are thinkers, feelers, and healers. They are talented beyond measure. And they love with all their hearts.
But, they give themselves no credit for these things.
Instead they play it small. They choose not to stand out. They fear sharing their talents and creative abilities with the world. If they draw up the courage to do it anyway, it comes with a lot of self-doubt, and maybe nights spent awake thinking about all the things they could have done differently.
They're sometimes taken advantage of because of their kindness and their willingness to share their heart with the world. They struggle with boundaries and saying "no".
They struggle with knowing their worth, that they deserve amazing things, and that the world wants to give that to them. They might think themselves undeserving or that everyone else should have what they want first.
They struggle to express their needs and put themselves first. In relationships, they're the healer, the caretaker, the strong one, but when they need someone to turn to there's no one there.
These beautiful women are often happy on the surface but in quiet moments feel and know that there is something more. And when/if they reach a point of unhappiness or wanting more for themselves and their lives, they judge their feelings, thinking they should just be grateful and happy for what they have.
Radiant soul, this is your permission slip:
You are allowed to be the biggest, fullest, most authentic expression of who you are, and love who you are 100%!
You are allowed to show up, light up, and express yourself! When you let go of playing small you benefit your family, your community, and the world. Yes, you are that powerful!
Also, you have permission to be powerful!
Your creative talents and abilities are a part of all our healing! You have permission to share them openly and freely and know within your heart and soul that they are magnificent, regardless of what anyone else says.
You were born with permission to say "no" when you want to say "no" and permission to say "yes" when you want to say "yes". Remember that. It is your right.
You have permission to tell your friends, family, strangers, how you will and will not be treated.
You have permission to use your voice! For your good, for the good of others, for the good of the planet.
You have permission to express your needs, know that they are important, and know that you are worthy of them. Always.
You have permission to be happy, unhappy, sad, mad, angry, confused, lost, listless, ashamed, joyful, giddy, excited, all of it! Feeling unhappy about a part of your life does not mean you are ungrateful. It means you are ready for change.
You have permission to enjoy being the loving, kind, sensitive, feeling, passionate, sensual, fun-loving, empowered, strong, expressive, intelligent, sexy, playful and creative woman that you are and to want a life that feels good.
This is your birthright.
You have permission to enjoy being the loving, kind, sensitive, feeling, passionate, sensual, fun-loving, empowered, strong, expressive, intelligent, sexy, and playful woman that you are and to want a life that feels good.
That is your birthright.
Want some help with this? I know how to hold space for you on your journey of stepping into the fullness of who you are and living a life you love. I know because I have been one of these women.
With empowered love,
Holay, Woman! It is time to rise up!
I've had this feeling for years. And the more I observe what is happening with my family and friends, my community, my city, country, and the world, the more I know this to be true.
And with the rhythms of Mother Nature, the pull of the Moon Cycles, and the unveiling of Spring, I feel it even more.
As women, womxn, femmes, insert whatever words feels good to you here, we are needed. We are part of the balance. Part of the healing. Part of the Love that we are all searching for.
Here are three ways to begin. To rise up and share who you are with the world.
1. Express you.
Close your eyes. Imagine expressing yourself freely, authentically, without concern for what other people think. What are you doing? Are you moving or still? Are you putting energy out or receiving? Are you creating or taking in creation? Where are you? Are you talking, singing, humming, or silent? Are you alone or with someone? What feels good? What do you feel in your body? What feels like you?
2. Connect to Mama Nature.
She is you. You are her. That connection is there all the time. If you don't feel it right now, what would help you feel it? Where would you go to feel it? What surrounds you when you feel connected to nature? How do you feel when you have that connection? How do you feel when you breathe in her air? Drink her water? Feel the warmth of the sun on your skin? Walk on her earth? How does she want to connect with you?
3. Step into who you are.
Get your journal out or invite a friend over for tea and chat this one over.
What does being a woman, femme, womxn, mean to you?
It's open. There are no rules.
Soft or strong.
Vulnerable or defensive.
Big or small.
Wise or not.
Busy or not.
Loving or not.
Maybe all of these.
Without the pressure of what you been taught, what the media presents, and what your peers say, who are you?
Maybe even without the label of woman/femme/womxn, who are you?
I can't wait to meet you.
Listen to you.
Share with you.
Hold space for you to be who you are.
Hold space for your authentic expansion.
If you find yourself wondering...
Why is she offering this course?
What's it for?
How does it work?
What's it's purpose?
That's all good!
I realize that connecting with the moon and your womb cycle might seem kind of out there for some people and that's okay.
The more I learn about myself and practice being authentic in who I am the more I realize that I am here to do things a little differently, to show people a different way, to open eyes and hearts a little. :)
If you feel called to do something a little different and to learn more about who you are authentically, read the Q&A below.
These are some of the most popular questions I've received about the
Dancing Your Moon Cycle Online Playshop:
What does Playshop mean?
It's a play on the word "workshop", because who wants to work more?
Why not play?
Why am I offering this course?
There are many reasons I am offering this course. One of them being that when a family member of mine began menstruating I heard one of her parents say "Why would anyone like it? It's gross and it's messy" and intrinsically I knew I wanted to be a part of changing this perception.
There are many more reasons why and I'll be sharing them over on our FB Event Page if you're interested.
What is the purpose?
The purpose is to connect you with your natural rhythm so that you can honour it and live a happier, healthier life. Sounds simple and it is!
When we tap into our body wisdom through dance, creativity, nature, our wombs, journaling, etc. we can receive so much guidance on what's good for us and what's not, as well as how we can live our lives in a way that feels nurturing, sustainable, and joyful. Maybe even magical!
Who is this Playshop for?
It is for everyone!
I think you'd benefit the most though if any of these apply to you:
- You feel a connection to nature and want to foster that connection
- You know that there is more to your cycle than that one uncomfortable week per month
- The moon feels magnetic to you, you are affected by it, or you love to moon gaze
- You know deep down that you are creative and want to express that
- People in your life say that you are sensitive, emotional, or intuitive
- You love to dance, meditate, or journal
- You experience PMS symptoms
- When I tell you that you are innately powerful, beautiful, and creative you feel a twinge in your body that lets you know it's the truth
How does it work?
After you register you will receive an email prompting you to create a login for my website. All the material is offered there on a weekly basis according to the phases of the moon - new, waxing, full, and waning. You will also receive access to a private Facebook group where you can ask questions, share and support other womxn participating in the workshop, and take part in the weekly Live Connection with me or view the recording if you can't make it live.
How do I register?
You can register by connecting with me via text (506-449-5380), email (email@example.com), Instagram or Facebook.
How much time does it require?
It requires as much or as little time as you choose. You will benefit from it the most if you commit 2-5 hours per week towards it. It's all fun stuff! And because of the nature of this journey you might notice it slowing creeping into your life outside of those 2-5 hours.
Do I have to do everything you suggest?
No. The playshop is self-lead and you can pick and choose what you want to do. All parts are optional.
More questions? Reach out! I'd love to hear from you. :)
Natalie loves life, people, animals, plants, and trees. She believes in the flow of life and approaches each day with gratitude.